Incorporating Novelty Can Greatly Improve Your Sex Life

There is a reason the beginning of a new relationship is known as the honeymoon period. It’s full of passion. Everything is new and exciting. At this stage, the sex is usually incredible. You simply can’t keep your hands off each other and the chemistry and passion feel palpable and exciting. But then, as you settle into a more committed long-term relationship, that fiery passion starts to fade. You’re used to each other now. And the sex can start to feel repetitive, stagnant, or stale. What was once a burning raging fire is now a set of dying embers, and you’re desperate to find the spark to reignite the flames.


Don’t worry. There are ways to find that fire again and have some of the best sex of your life, even after years with the same partner. All it takes is a little creativity and willingness to switch things up and try adding some novelty in the bedroom. Changing up your routine can do wonders for your sex life. It allows you and your partner to reconnect on a deeper level and find that romance that may have faded away. Take the opportunity to feel sexy again and spice things up. Just be sure you and your partner are open with communication and clear about what you’re both comfortable with.

The key is to find new and enjoyable things to try in the bedroom, not to scare or intimidate the other person. But once you find something you both like, it can bring back those feelings of passion and excitement yet again. Don’t let your sex life die out just because you’ve been together for years. Here are a couple of ways novelty items can greatly improve your sex life and a few things you can try to spice things up.

Spice Things Up

The sad truth is that sex can often get repetitive and somewhat boring. Especially when you know your partner so well, there really aren’t many surprises left in your sex life. Bringing in new novelty items can really help you spice things up. New accessories or even a romantic getaway can help you see your partner in a new light. Sex can still be exciting, fresh, and new with the help of vibrators, sex toys, and other novelty items.

Reengage With Intimacy

The beauty of adding novelty to your sex life is it helps you reengage in intimacy with your partner. At a certain point, sex can become stale and casual. But remember the magic of the first time you were intimate with that person? Everything was new and exciting. You felt so connected after experiencing that level of intimacy for the first time. Bringing in a new element to your sex life brings back that element of curiosity and freshness. Trying something new takes vulnerability and trust which are essentials in a relationship and can help you and your partner feel more connected in and out of the bedroom.

Bring Back Romance

When you first start dating, sex isn’t necessarily a given. You have to pull out the moves and try to court each other so you can get the real thing. But once you’ve been together a long time, that element of romance isn’t as prevalent. Bringing novelty into the bedroom can also mean bringing romance back into your life. It’s the perfect opportunity to actually court each other and put in an effort again. Remind your partner that they are worth everything by putting in effort with your sex life and beyond.

Feel Sexy and Adventurous Again

Life can take a lot out of you. After many years together and especially after having kids, it can be hard to feel sexy. You’ve lost that sense of adventure in the bedroom and it can have possible side effects on the rest of your life and your self-confidence. Finding ways to bring novelty into the bedroom will make you feel sexy and confident again.

What are some ways to bring novelty into your sex life?

It’s clear that adding novelty into your sex life can be a game-changer for your confidence and your relationship. But you may be wondering how you can go about doing so. While different tools and novelties work for different people, here are a few ideas that can help you spice up your sex life and have orgasms you won’t believe.

Sex Toys

Incorporating sex toys may be the best thing for beginners just dipping your feet into the world of novelty. From dildos to anal beads to app-controlled vibrators, there are a ton of options for you and your partner to explore. So, explore a strap or using more lubricant or a vibrating dildo. Bringing in a new toy is a great way to get started with adding some novelty to your sex life.

Mutual Masturbation

Once you have some toys to play with, you may want to consider exploring on your own, but still together. Mutual masturbation can be a huge turn-on and an intimate experience. Use that realistic suction cup dildo with the perfect girth and great texture and let your partner watch. There is nothing more intimate than reaching that climax together with the help of some accessories. Sometimes, it’s even better than the real thing.


Sometimes the best addition to your sex life can be prescription drugs or supplements. If you’ve been having trouble with getting aroused or keeping a long-lasting erection, male enhancement meds may be a good option for you. Drugs like Extenze will help you keep plenty of length for your entire sexual experience. Supplements may be the answer to reengaging and finding new variety in your sex life.


For women, finding your sexuality may be as easy as slipping into some fun lingerie. The mystery of what is waiting under your nightgowns can drive men wild. Find a bra, brazier, or panties that make you feel sexy and ready to put on a show. The right lingerie and accessories can be a simple way to spice things up in the bedroom.


Sometimes the easiest way to get turned on is to watch someone else. Pornography or erotic material can be a great thing to watch together to really get you in the mood. This can also give you ideas of new positions and situations you can act out together.


Sex can be exciting when you are in control or when you are being controlled. So many people get turned on by dominating dialogue and situations. In those relationships, BDSM may be an interesting thing to bring into the bedroom. Light bondage, masks, blindfolds, or even harnesses that are more intense pieces can really excite your sex life. Going down this road will require clear and honest communication about what you are each comfortable with before engaging.

Dirty Talk or Texting

Sometimes the biggest turn on is telling a person exactly what you want from them, whether that is in person or over the phone. Send that dirty text or a naughty picture to help arouse your partner. Or bring that same dirty talk into the bedroom. Clearly communicating what you want in a sexual way can really increase you and your partner’s sex drive.

By Sam

Sam Lowy is a writer, actor, comedian, musician, and everything in between. A true jack of all trades, Sam is constantly striving to learn and grow. Whether it's for a festival or just a once-in-a-lifetime club show, Sam loves to travel across the country to catch the best artists around. When he's at home in Tempe, AZ, Sam enjoys reading, playing guitar, and watching Frasier, Seinfeld, and Curb Your Enthusiasm.